Letting Go

Charly asked me to guest post again and I'm honored to do this for her. 

I felt impressed to post about relationships between children and their parents.  This is a difficult one as when your children get older as parents we try hard to hold onto them as children.  It's all in letting go and having faith they will make the right decisions.

We sometimes (almost always) feel inadequate as parents.  So we hold on hoping we can help them make the right choice but instead we suffocate them and make them feel like we don't trust them.  When in all truth that's the last thing we wanted to do.

We as parents need to have faith that we've taught our children to have a moral compass and the rest is up to them.  As long as we have loved them and taught them right from wrong.  There's not much more we can do.

We cannot shelter them from the world forever, otherwise they will not grow to their potential.  We just need to believe in them and love them.  Besides if we do this, when they fail, they will remember that we are their safe place to fall.  Where we will always be there for them.


Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts.
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as he loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable. 

Khalil  Gibran